You may have all the prerequisites
for happiness including a job, a happy family and a big house. However, why do
not you feel fulfilled? If you constantly feel that something is missing, then
the missing piece of the puzzle could be your purpose.
At this stage, you need to sit down
and re-evaluate your life. Only by asking yourself and looking into your self
will you find the answers. No one knows you better than yourself. Hence, it is
you and only you who can find your purpose. Your job is to find this purpose
and polish it well. Because when you accomplish that, your life becomes so much
more meaningful.
Find What Excites You
Most of the time, your purpose is
what excites you. If your current job does not excite you, it is definitely not
your passion. Do you have to drag yourself out of bed every day? Are you
constantly looking at the clock during work?
All of us are born with a talent. We
all have something inside us that makes us different and special. You just need
to find this thing. Just a little warning: you will not be perfect at it the
first time. You cannot really expect to be perfect at something even if it is
your talent. You have to learn it, earn it. Even the best of artists and
musicians have to practice and learn. However, how do you know what your talent
is then? It is something that comes easy to you. It could be drawing. If you
enjoy practicing your craft with a pen or pencil, love to learn more about art,
admire great artworks and look up to fine artists, then being in a creative and
artistic field could be your true calling.
If it is always been easier for you
to draw than read or write, then look that way. Maybe you could draw straight
lines and perfect circles without any tools, and your notes had more doodles
than writing on them. Clues like these tell you where you real passion lies and
you should not hesitate to answer that call.
Here’s something- have you ever had
that feeling when you do something for the first time but feel like you already
know how to do it? That is the feeling you need to look for. Steve Jobs has the
best advice in this regard. He says that you have to trust in something in your
life. It could be ‘’gut, destiny, life, the karma, whatever’’. He says that
this approach made a lot of difference in your life.
Ask Yourself Why
‘Why’ is one of the most powerful
questions ever asked. You need to ask yourself why you want to do a certain
thing or why not? It is important to focus on the clarity of purpose. If you
know the why behind the things you do, you will find your purpose easily. As an
example, consider the whys associated with your job - Maybe you are doing this
job because it earns you a fine living. Maybe you are in this career because
your parents pressured you or you could be doing something just because all
your friends were.
If these reasons justify your whys,
then you are not doing what your purpose in life is. When you ask yourself
‘Why’ and the answer should be fulfillment. That is when know you are face to
face with your purpose. You need to ask yourself “Why do I want to draw?’’. If
the voice from inside tells you that it is to get meaning and fulfillment, then
you are on the right path. This path will take you to your propose. If the
voice inside you tells that you are doing something out of fear or to ‘’fit
in’’, then you need to let go immediately, for that is not your purpose.
Once you figure out the why, follow
Nike’s motto and Just Do It, because the more you act, the more things
become clearer. So instead of overthinking whether something will work out or
not, should you try it or what if you do not make money at it, start taking
small steps towards your calling.
On the way there will always people
around you who will have discouraging words for you. They will tell you that
your career path is unrealistic and useless. Alternatively, there are those who
will forcefully make you believe that something else is your pursuit. You have
to ignore all these voices and listen to yourself instead.
Your true passion lies only in the
things that you enjoy and love. Do not let others dictate this to you or allow
anyone to tell you that your passion is useless. Since it is something that
defines you as a person, you should not care about others’ opinions or
expectations. Just remember that you are doing it for yourself. Because you owe
it to yourself.
Explore Your Options
Many people also get stuck because
they try to find the ONE thing that they’re meant to do. However, in doing so,
you may waste your time looking for the wrong thing, actually find something
and then realize that it is not for you, or just become disheartened when that
something doesn’t work out for you.
However, why limit yourself to this
ONE mentality when you could do so much more? The idea that you have only one
thing that is meant for you can limit you from fulfilling your potential. For
instance, you may be a life coach, who writes, travels, speaks, teaches,
mentors and designs at the same time. You may enjoy every aspect of this job,
being equally good at all of them. You may feel equally passionate about being
in any of these roles, which makes the whole experience of being a life coach
more meaningful.
Therefore, stop thinking that there
is only one singular purpose for you when you could be doing so much more with
passion. So do not hesitate to jump in and try new things. Stop trying to
resist the unknown for maybe that is where your calling is hiding.
Do follow your passions to make your
life more purposeful, for when you live a passionate life, it becomes your
purpose as well. In fact, you only need to look for a purpose when passion is
lacking from your life. This makes you feel disconnected from life so to fix
this void, simply add in more passion.
If you need help with that, look at
people who inspire you for they can help you find your passion. For instance,
if an artist or a designer inspires you, their field could be your passion too.
Do you find yourself spending all your time on social media pages of fashion
bloggers or designers?
Do not Suppress Your Doubts
Suppressing your doubts is something
that can stop you from finding your purpose. By definition, doubt is a feeling
you get when you have to do something, but there is more than one course of
action to choose from. You are not sure which option you should pick, so you
give in to doubt.
Although doubt always involves
uncertainty about which decision will turn out best, it is not actually a bad
thing to experience. If you let your doubts surface and come to terms with
them, you are still making progress. However, if you keep ignoring them, your
life will become a mess. For example, do you have doubts about your current
job? Do you feel like you could be much better at something else? Give this
thought time and find what you are better at. Even when you do think you have
found a purpose and you have doubt, let that come to surface too.
Otherwise, you will be stuck with a
false purpose. In finding your purpose, you will have doubts, fear and
ambiguities. Always remember the final point and the joy you get once you are
there. With this thought in mind, you will definitely discover your purpose.


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